Erev Shabbos Parashas Tetzaveh Parshas Zachor 5775

Dear Parents,

Purim has so much to offer our children – an exciting story with a dramatically wonderful outcome, costumes, treats, legal noise-making in shul, excitement, delivering Shalach Manos and much, much more.  It’s a day that children look forward to with eager and delighted expectation, as well it should be.

There is, however, an aspect of the Purim celebrations that is not universally adored by children.  There are in fact any number of children who have a conscious or subconscious feeling of embarrassment or even worse, actual dread as Purim approaches.  I am not referring to some unfortunate children whose family lacks the basic resources to celebrate the holiday.  There are children who fear confronting yet another Purim when their father loses control due to excessive drinking.

There is ample support in Sifrei Halacha to justify imbibing greater amounts of alcohol at the Purim Seuda than the small amounts that are acceptable throughout the year.  The injunction to feast until the distinction between the curse of Haman and the blessing of Mordechai becomes blurred certainly seems to indicate a rationale for dulling of the senses through ingesting wine and liquor.  And yet, as with all our other actions, and all other Mitzvos D’Oraysa (Biblical laws) and Mitzvos D’Rabbanan (Rabbinic Laws) there are guidelines and parameters as to what is called for.

No one would consider that stealing an Esrog is justified in order to fulfill this most important and significant Mitzvah.  Hitting and cursing workers to ensure that the matzos they are baking contain no chometz isn’t something acceptable in anyone’s book.  The same is true of Ad D’Lo Yada on Purim.  If a person, especially a father in the presence of his own children, gets to a state where he has lost control of his actions due to alcohol presumably consumed L’Shem Shamayim (for the sake of Heaven), this is no longer an acceptable or effective Mitzvah act.

Purim is for children and for mothers and for fathers.  The adults in this picture have the responsibility to achieve personal Simcha in a manner that will enhance everyone else’s Simcha, not detract from it through self-centered, self-absorbed behavior.  Think of your children before you are too far gone.  Ask a good friend to be your drinking buddy, agree beforehand to allow him to help you stop before your behavior disintegrates to the point your children start getting traumatized.

Enjoy Simchas Purim – prepare now to understand the deep joy and special opportunities for Mitzvos, Tefillah and Torah growth that Purim represents, so when Thursday arrives, the schnapps will merely be useful to put the icing on your already achieved state of Simcha, and not be its foundation.

Have a wonderful Shabbos and achieve true Simcha shel Mitzvah this Purim,

L’CHAIM!

Rabbi Baumann

Principal

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