Erev Shabbos Parashas Tetzaveh Parashas Zachor 5773

Dear Parents,

Purim is a time to focus on community, unity and Ahavas Yisroel. Three of the four Mitzvos of the day are tied directly to strengthening bonds of love and closeness between people. In an eye-opening talk for educators, given by Rabbi Yitzchak Berkowitz, Shlita, of Yerusholayim, and facilitated by the Chofetz Chaim Heritage Foundation in its anti-bullying campaign, he examines one of the foundations of Bein Adam L’Chaveiro, interpersonal relationships.

Rabbi Berkowitz suggests that being Dan L’Chaf Zechus, judging others favorably is a key to loving relationships between people. Being critical and finding fault with others is a wedge that separates people. Learning to see others in a positive light draws people together. The difficulty in judging favorably is the apparent need to be extremely creative in conjuring up far-fetched scenarios to explain away seemingly bad behavior. This is a misconception, says Rabbi Berkowitz, and he proves it through another question.

The Torah source for judging favorably is B’Tzedek Tishpot Amisecha (Vayikra 19:15) with righteousness shall you judge. This Pasuk, however, is also the source of several Halachic requirements that assure that judges will judge in accordance with the truth. Judges judging is all about the truth, no matter how harsh that may be, but judging favorably seems to bend the truth in order to be kind to one’s fellow. How could the same Pasuk teach both?

Rabbi Berkowitz explains: Judging favorably is not a departure from the truth. In actuality, judging favorably as the Halacha requires it is coming closest to the truth under the circumstances. For example: A person known to be a Shomer Shabbos person is spotted driving a car on a Shabbos afternoon. What are the facts? 1) He is known as a Shomer Shabbos person. 2) He was driving a car on Shabbos. Is it more plausible to say he suddenly stopped being careful about a severe, universally known violation of Shabbos, or is it not more likely that this is a Halachically sanctioned circumstance in which it is permitted to drive on Shabbos? Judging favorably means that what makes the most sense is that this person has not reversed a decades-old manner of behavior and acted out of character. Although what appears in front of us now points to something different, it is more plausible to apply an unusual circumstance to this case than to say a lifetime of behavior has just reversed itself.

This explains how the same Pasuk can teach both judging honestly in a courtroom and judging others in a favorable light in the courts of our mind. It also makes the task of judging favorably infinitely easier. We are not dealing in a surreal world where reality is suspended to make others look good. We’re not supposed to be fools, we’re not to allow ourselves to be taken advantage of. We judge favorably as the Torah requires, because a careful analysis of all the factors involved yields the most likely and therefore truthful conclusion; that a person who is known to be careful in a certain matter, did not suddenly reverse his own pattern of behavior. That is why the Halacha is different for a Tzadik, a middle-of-the-road type person (Beinoni) and a Rasha. (*see below)

This is a somewhat complicated concept to teach young children. What is very simple, however, is that were we to live by the Torah’s precept of judging favorably, our children will learn from what we do even more than what we say, and will come to a higher level of Ahavas Yisrael, through witnessing and experiencing their parents’ behavior.This will help them have a more successful and happy life, every parent’s goal for their beloved children.

Have a wonderful Shabbos and a Simcha and Achdus-filled Purim,

Rabbi Kalman Baumann

Principal

*Rabbeinu Yonah explains these are not global descriptions, but every person can be a Tzadik in one area, a Beinoni in another etc. For example, someone careful about Kashrus but not as careful about Loshon Hara is considered a Tzaddik about Kashrus issues and a Beinoni about Lashon Hara issues. When judging such a person, their prior performance in each particular area determines how he or she is to be judged in this case.

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